For many of us, there's someone in our life who quietly does things for you without being asked. Maybe it's your spouse who reorganizes their entire day around your doctor visits, or your adult child who calls every evening to check on you, or maybe it's a close friend who shows up with groceries because they know you're having a tough week. These are your caregivers, and they deserve to know how much they mean to you.
As we move through November, a month when we naturally think about gratitude and thankfulness, it's the perfect time to let these special people know you see them and appreciate everything they do.
This is especially important because while your caregiver is taking such good care of you, they often forget to take care of themselves. They often push through stress and exhaustion because they're focused on you. So how can you give back? Start with the simple things. Tell them thank you, and be specific about it. Instead of just saying "thanks for everything," try something like "thank you for rearranging your work schedule to take me to my appointment last Tuesday. I know that wasn't easy for you." When you notice the details of what they do, it shows them their efforts don't go unseen.
If you're physically able, take on a small task they usually handle. Maybe you can make the grocery list this week, or call to schedule your own appointment, or sort your pills into the weekly container. Even one less thing on their plate can feel like a gift.
Encourage them to do something for themselves. Suggest they go out with friends, take a walk, or just have an afternoon to relax. Let them know you want them to have time for their own wellbeing.
Sometimes the best gift is simply acknowledging how hard caregiving can be. You might say something like "I know this has been a lot for you" or "I see how tired you are, and I'm grateful you're still here for me." Just hearing that you understand can lift a weight off their shoulders.
Your caregiver chose to be there for you because they care about you deeply. This November, let them know that their love and effort haven't gone unnoticed. Show them the same care and appreciation they show you every single day.
If you have questions about resources that might help both you and your caregiver, or if you'd like to discuss ways to make your care routine easier for everyone involved, don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We're here to support you and the people who support you.